People new to polyamory often ask where to find partners, especially outside dating apps. The answer is simple: be more open about being polyamorous. Poly people and those open to dating them are everywhere, but if you’re closeted—and they are too—you’ll never know you’re standing right next to each other. Almost everyone I’ve dated in recent years has come from my community, not apps. I don’t have much patience for swiping, but because I’m out and surrounded by polyamorous and progressive peopl

You don’t have to know every single detail of your partner’s date with someone else to be a good and supportive polyamorous partner. Not only are you allowed to have boundaries, but also, the person your partner is dating may want some things to be kept private too! Personally, I tell my partner I just want the highlights reel. A brief summary of anything particularly interesting that happened, without going into a play by play, is enough for me. I’ve had various partners that have handled it di